We read this week about instructions given to Bnei Israel through Moshe to build a Mishkan or sanctuary for Hashem. The Torah says: וְעָשׂוּ לִי מִקְדָּשׁ, “They shall make a sanctuary for Me…” (Ex. 25,8) The next verse reads: כְּכֹל אֲשֶׁר אֲנִי מַרְאֶה אוֹתְךָ, “Like everything that I show you…”. That means that definitive instructions were given about every detail of the construction of the Mishkan.
There is another sanctuary that every Jew builds when he gets married. The new home that is established should also be a Jewish sanctuary. Here there are no detailed instructions given anyplace. The reason for that is that to build a home that will radiate Judaism and one in which children will grow up with respect for others and adherence to Jewish principles depends on numerous factors.
Not every situation is the same. To reach the desired results depends on the background of the parents, the temperament of the children, the environment in which the family lives, and many other factors. To generate the ideal home depends on the dynamics of the family. Although the exact instructions are not given, the guidelines, nevertheless, are found in the teachings of Judaism.